In some respects its strange to say the phrase "gay wedding". I catch myself saying it all the time and what I really want to say is "wedding". Why can't we say "wedding" without giving it any further thought? In due time across this country I predict we will soon just say "wedding". Of course there are going to be those that object to gay weddings, but that number is getting smaller and smaller each day. But enough of the politics…Weddings in my opinion have no place for politics.
There are a few exceptions of course like New York, Massachusetts and many other states where gay weddings aren't even given a second thought. However, in some of the more conservative states like South Carolina I'm finding couples aren't really sure which vendors are gay friendly. I can tell you this, most of the vendors I've talked to in Charleston, SC are so excited to have the opportunity to work with couples of any gender. They see gay weddings as an opportunity to grow their business, and to be honest, if the money's green they'll take it. But I think it's more than that, deep down, they see what we all see, two people in love who have the right to be recognized as married.
As a planner who has planned dozens of gay weddings I find planning gay weddings a bit more special and meaningful than those of their straight counterparts. Personally it's because these are couples who have been together for 15, 20, 30 + years who otherwise never thought they would see the day when they could marry the person they love. Now don't get me wrong, I love planning all weddings, gay or straight, but there's just something that tugs at my heart strings, maybe because I'm gay and I've been able to marry.
And as a wedding planner who has recently expanded his planning services to Charleston, SC, I find myself with a slight advantage to my counterparts here in Charleston because I have planned countless gay weddings. For me, I treat gay or straight weddings all the same. It's a moment when two people who are in love join to become one. I treat each the same in their requests, in what's important and what's not important. I treat each with the same devotion and regardless I know (for most) this is a onetime deal.
So I say this, if you're gay and looking to get married in the South you can certainly come to me, but also know, you have support in growing numbers from many wedding businesses that want you to hire them, because the reality is, they want you to be happy too.
Until next time…