Shawn Rabideau Stationery now at Bed Bath and Beyond

I am excited to announce that the Shawn Rabideau Stationery collection is now available in the new stationery department at Bed, Bath and Beyond.  You can see all of the great designs here:

Shawn Rabideau Stationery

New York Lounge wedding

With all of the cold and snow we have been experiencing this winter I thought I would send out warm thoughts and share a wonderful rooftop wedding I planned and designed this past Summer at Tribeca Rooftop in New York City.

This was a great wedding for me to plan not only because Dawn and PJ were wonderful brides, but also due to the fact that I was planning the wedding for PJ's sister at the same time!  It was wonderful to get to know the family and everyone at Susan's wedding in Virginia then to see everyone again in New York.  You can see photos from Susan's wedding here:  Lovely Virginia Wedding

Fortunately, we had great weather for the ceremony on the rooftop.  Once the ceremony was concluded guests were treated to cocktails on the roof and then a lounge style reception.  

You can see that I designed a few dining tables for family and lounge seating for the rest of the guests.  I worked with Taylor Creative to create different vignettes around the room with seating in purple and white that tied into the overall scheme.  I then used green and purple floral to create sleek, impactful centerpieces that really popped in the room.  The result was a look that the Brides loved.

It was really a great setting for Dawn and PJ to make their grand entrance down the staircase to their amazing reception.  It was a great night for a wonderful couple.

I addition to the staff at Tribeca Rooftop and Taylor Creative, I would like to give a shout out to On the Move for supplying terrific entertainment and Sion Fullana for the wonderful photography.

Sending you warm thoughts until the next great event and...

Cheers!

Watch the tides

If you're looking to get married on the beach or have your reception on the beach the tide calendar is going to become your friend.  And any good wedding planner worth their weight (and price) had better look this information up before even entertaining the idea of a beach wedding on your specific date and time.

When looking at the tide calendar it is important to be very specific about your location as there are differences in the exact timing of low and high tide even within the same city.  I like using the site in the link below because you can be very specific about your location and get the information you need for planning.

http://www.saltwatertides.com/pickpred.html

The last thing you want is for you or guests to get swept away in a high tide.

Until next time…

Cheers!

Planning a Gay Wedding

In some respects its strange to say the phrase "gay wedding".  I catch myself saying it all the time and what I really want to say is "wedding".   Why can't we say "wedding" without giving it any further thought?  In due time across this country I predict we will soon just say "wedding".  Of course there are going to be those that object to gay weddings, but that number is getting smaller and smaller each day.  But enough of the politics…Weddings in my opinion have no place for politics.

There are a few exceptions of course like New York, Massachusetts and many other states where gay weddings aren't even given a second thought.  However, in some of the more conservative states like South Carolina I'm finding couples aren't really sure which vendors are gay friendly.  I can tell you this, most of the vendors I've talked to in Charleston, SC are so excited to have the opportunity to work with couples of any gender.  They see gay weddings as an opportunity to grow their business, and to be honest, if the money's green they'll take it.  But I think it's more than that, deep down, they see what we all see, two people in love who have the right to be recognized as married.

As a planner who has planned dozens of gay weddings I find planning gay weddings a bit more special and meaningful than those of their straight counterparts.  Personally it's because these are couples who have been together for 15, 20, 30 + years who otherwise never thought they would see the day when they could marry the person they love.  Now don't get me wrong, I love planning all weddings, gay or straight, but there's just something that tugs at my heart strings, maybe because I'm gay and I've been able to marry.

And as a wedding planner who has recently expanded his planning services to Charleston, SC, I find myself with a slight advantage to my counterparts here in Charleston because I have planned countless gay weddings.  For me, I treat gay or straight weddings all the same.  It's a moment when two people who are in love join to become one.  I treat each the same in their requests, in what's important and what's not important.  I treat each with the same devotion and regardless I know (for most) this is a onetime deal.

So I say this, if you're gay and looking to get married in the South you can certainly come to me, but also know, you have support in growing numbers from many wedding businesses that want you to hire them, because the reality is, they want you to be happy too.

Until next time…

Cheers!

Sunset photos - timing is everything!

Charleston, South Carolina has some killer sunsets!  If you're getting married there (or in any location with a killer sunset) timing is everything!

Any wedding photographer will tell you those are some of the most difficult shots to get, specifically because of the timing.  It's not like you stop the sun from setting.  There's no magical switch to turn it on or off.

So if you're planning your own wedding how can you be sure that you and your now spouse will be in the foreground of the perfect sunset?

Photo Courtesy of Hopkins Studio

First and foremost, communicate with everyone!  The moment you hire your venue, photographer, caterer, day of planner, band or whomever else, tell them you want the perfect sunset shot.  Communicating your plan is one of the most important things you can do.  By letting everyone know you want that shot it will allow all the vendors to come together to say okay, we need to make sure we're not serving food, doing the father daughter dance or whatever else may take place.

If you have a wedding planner, whether it be a day of or a full scale they will know when the sun is setting and put that into the day of wedding timeline. They'll be able to communicate the specific time with all the vendors and work around that 10 to 15 minute period to make sure you get the perfect shot.  If you don't have a wedding planner you can find out the sunset times in your local area here: http://www.sunrisesunset.com/

Photo Courtesy of Hopkins Studio

You really want to make sure you work your timeline around the sunset, once that's figured out, everything else will fall into place.

Until next time...

Cheers!

Wedding trends - Day of Planners

I've been planning weddings and events for over 15 years and in that time I've seen trends come and go.  However, there is one trend that I think is here to stay and that's brides requesting (in record numbers) a day of wedding planner.  For some reason full time wedding planners have received a bad rap for being too expensive.  Thus brides who want help, but also want to save money, turn to a day of planner.  I'll be talking in the coming weeks about the misconceptions regarding the expense of a full time wedding planner, but for now I want to talk about day of planning.

To be honest, I never could understand how one could properly do "day of planning".  As a planner, how could you possibly show up on the most important day of someone's life and possibly execute a flawless wedding?  It's almost impossible to get to know a bride's hot buttons a week or even two weeks before her big day.  Thus, why I never wanted to do "day of planning".

However, after many requests, I decided that if demand called I would answer and now offer "day of planning".  But, my service encompasses more than just the actual wedding day and here is why.  To properly plan a wedding I need to get to know the client and the client needs to get to know me.  First and foremost, if you want to hire me or an associate as a day of planner you'll need to hire us a minimum of two to three months out from the date of your wedding.  This allows us to get to know each other and it allows me to know every single detail of your wedding.

As your day of planner I'll sit down with the bride, groom and parents to discuss what's important, what's not important.  What's been done and what still needs to be done.  I'll want to see all the contracts for each of your vendors and the time you've contracted them for.  I'll also want to discuss all the little logistics that may not have been thought of such as first look or transportation to and from the church.  Do the times you've contracted match up with your planned timeline?  Often I find it's the little details that get missed and I have to reorganize a few things to make sure the day runs smoothly.  I'll also pull together your day of timeline and speak with each one of your vendors to make sure they are on point and are in the know with every single detail.  So by the time your wedding day rolls around the bride will want for nothing.  We'll handle everything so you don't have to.

The reality is day of planning can be a lot harder that planning a wedding from start to finish.  There's the issue with the bride having had numerous if not hundreds of discussions with the caterer or photographer that you've not been privy to.  There's the issue of the planner not really getting to know the brides personality.  And there's always the issue of her hiring vendors that simply are inexperienced (less expensive) which only makes the planners job harder.  However, if you hire a proper day of planner they'll take care of all those issues so you don't have to.

In the next couple of blogs I'll talk about the do's and don'ts to hiring a proper day of wedding planner.

Until then...

cheers!

Getting the most out of your wedding vendors

Rabidos and Rabidon'ts for making your wedding vendors go the distance for you.

The vendors you choose for your wedding are at the core to making your wedding dreams come true.  And the thing to remember is that your wedding vendors aren’t necessarily working “for” you, but rather “with” you.

So here are a few tips to make your wedding vendors work with you, which in turn will make them want to go a little further for you thus making your wedding fabulous and a little less stressful.

Rabido – When searching for vendors, let them know you’re shopping. This does two things, first they know you might just be getting started and feeling things out.  Second, they’ll be willing to offer up even more information so that you can be educated when narrowing down your selections.

Rabidon’t – Don’t ignore your vendors.  Whether it’s a potential vendor or one you’ve hired, responding to an email or voicemail within 24 hours isn’t just nice, it’s good business.  The idea that you’re too busy for your own wedding really doesn’t sit well with planners, photographers, DJ’s and venues.  Not responding signals that you don’t care about the efforts they’ve put into helping your wedding dreams come true.

Rabido – When you receive a proposal from a prospective wedding vendor, let them know you’ve received it, will review it and will get back to them in a timely manner.  That acknowledges that you’re keeping them top of mind.

Rabidon’t – Don’t be afraid to ask your prospective wedding vendors if they have any specials or discounts.  Wedding vendors will make concessions to work with you; after all they want the business.

Rabido – Do plan to tip your wedding vendors.  Of course tipping is up to you, but it’s always a nice thing to do.

Rabidon’t – Don’t forget to feed your wedding vendors on the day of your wedding.  Now this doesn’t mean you should set up a table at your reception, but you should arrange with your wedding venue or caterer a place behind the scene to feed them a hot meal.  And NO it’s not okay for the band, photographer, planner or any other vendor to drink at your wedding, but that’s another blog post for another day.

Rabido – And finally do trust your wedding vendors when they dole out advice.  They’ve been doing this a lot longer than you and know what will work and won’t work.

Until next time...

Cheers!